When I first saw the interview with August Alsina about his relationship with Jada Pinkett Smith, I thought so many things to myself. I know in marriages couples go through a lot. Many don’t have the temperament to handle resentment, hurt, dishonesty, cheating and more over a period of time. Sometimes, therapy is never an option and couples walk away just to have the same issues with someone else or not deal with themselves individually.
Jada and Will have been married for a really long time. When this came out, there was a part of me that knew August was telling the truth. When could this have happened? Will and Jada looked happy to the public eye.
We can’t tell the real deal in someone’s relationship. Will said “We came together young and we were both broken in our own ways.” That point hardly comes up. Couples get together and don’t consider how that past break up, the relationship with your parents and more make or break the relationship.
Jada spoke some real truths about herself.
“She just wanted to feel good and wanted to fix someone so that she could feel good.” As women, we can be nurturers and our job can turn into fixing others and making sure everyone else is ok except for us. We use outside distractions like our families, career and friendships to stop paying attention to ourselves. It’s not uncommon to use other people to fill a void.
“Can’t find happiness outside of self.” It’s hard to face the truth at times. Is it really your marriage or relationship that is making you unhappy? What aren’t you willing to look at or deal with? When you deal with the root of your unhappiness it leaves room for a real conversation to take place.
Will and Jada have been together long enough to look at the hard truths of their relationship. It couldn’t have been easy for Will to be in the position most women are in and support Jada. This is what commitment looks like. They have grown to learn enough about themselves and are doing the necessary work to heal. Once two people are committed to their own individual happiness that’s when the magic happens.
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